Dear Dumplings — Week 14: What Do I Want? What Do You Need?


Dear Dumplings:

I only have one day left in week 14 to write you a week 14 letter.  Somehow this week just got away from me.  Tomorrow you will be 15 weeks along! I can hardly believe it.

As I write this you are getting close to 4 inches long!  You’re bigger than a peach.  They tell me you can grasp at things and suck your thumb.  I also hear you’ve started break dancing.  I’m not supposed to be able to feel that yet, but I can.  I think it is because there are two of you in there.  It feels like pressure on my tummy and sometimes it tickles.

We’re getting better with our eating this week, and except for the turkey, we’re pretty strict vegetarians.  I don’t know how we went from bacon to lentils … but that’s where we are.  It’s far from perfect, but I can feel that we are in the home stretch.

The big accomplishment this week was starting the baby registry list.  I was dreading this mainly because it seems so overwhelming.  And it is.  There is the stuff people tell you that you need, the things you think are cute and you have to have and then there is the stuff you need.  I think ours, like most new parents, is an eclectic mix of all these things.

I’m here to tell you now, we’re not spending $400 for a high chair (we’re spending $30).  Though it looks like when you outgrow your infant car seat stroller set up, we’re going to have to spend much more than $400 on something like the Onyx Baby Jogger City Select Stroller with Second Seat.

Baby Jogger City Select Stroller with Second Seat - Onyx

I like this one because it does this when you are getting along:

Baby Jogger City Select Stroller with Second Seat - Onyx

And this, when you are not:

Baby Jogger City Select Stroller with Second Seat - Onyx

In all seriousness, I have been combing blogs and lists and reviews.  This snazzy little number came up on the most lists as a rock star stroller, but your Daddy and I still need to go to the store and “test drive” them.

I found this website called BabyLi.st.  It allows you to shop anywhere on the web and put everything in one master list.  I like it because it also lets the gift giver purchase the item anywhere at the best price they can find.  Ultimately, I am using this tool as my own master list, so we don’t forget anything.  I was told to register for only a few toys and no baby clothes.  I did add a lot of white onesies, which they tell me are not really clothes, but necessities.

I’m sure this information is not all that interesting to you … your Daddy did not appear all that enthused about it either (though he loves to tell everyone I am doing it).  I can tell, despite his protestations, he is excited and ready to go to the store and play with strollers and car seats.  It’s important that your Daddy knows how to work everything before you get here.  He can be mechanically challenged, but don’t tell him I said that.  In all honesty, so can your Mama, after all, some of this gear looks complicated.

When you get here on the other side, you’ll probably be happy we did all of this research.  I’m sure we’ll make a few purchase mistakes, but I hope we get the big ones right.

Something you might be interested in knowing … we are going to go with cloth diapers.  I had cloth diapers as a baby and they have come a very long way since 1969.  I have read more than anyone ever needs to read about cloth diapers.  Covers vs. Pockets.  Inserts vs. Diapers.  In the end, I have opted for some of each.  We’re starting with bumGenius and Thirsties … we’ll see how that goes.  Right now I am going on reviews from other Moms and maternal instinct.

Hopefully, I actually have maternal instinct.

I have picked out your baby beds and your linens.  I don’t know what I am going to use for a dresser.  A part of me wants to get a raw one and paint it with non-toxic paint and get some cool knobs.  I think I am going to go for the changing table on top of the dresser and not an actual “changing table.”

Your room in this house is very small, so I am trying to just do the basics, since I know we’ll be moving, hopefully before your first birthday. Once all of these swings and bouncy seats take over the house, we might be moving before your second month birthday.

Grandma Kay (we’re not going to call her Grandma Kay — I have a much more interesting name I want you to try to learn, which she’ll pretend to hate, but secretly she’ll love it, especially when you say it) is going to come visit us later in the summer and help me put it all together.  She’s good like that.  Even at 43, your Mama still needs her Mama.

We have a lot of work to do on naming all of your grandparents.  Of course, it does not matter what we tell you to call them, you are going to come up with your own version of the name anyway.  Mawmaw got her name from me because I could not (or would not) say Mamaw.

Do you know how lucky you are to have so many grandparents?  I think it is wonderful.  I can’t wait for you to meet them.

I did buy some things yesterday.  I couldn’t help it.  They tell me you’re going to be able to start hearing our voices in a few weeks, so I had to buy some books.  A dozen books to be exact.  Kids books are cheap, and anyone who knows me knows that your book collection is almost as important as what diapers we are going to use.

I saw all of these goofy speakers you can put on your belly and play messages and music for you.  I’m not putting any speakers on my belly, but I will read to you and sing you some songs, like I’m already doing.

Here’s our book list:

  • Oh, Baby, the Places You’ll Go!
  • The Going-To-Bed Book
  • One Fish Two Fish Red Fish Blue Fish
  • Are You My Mother?
  • Goodnight Moon
  • The Very Hungry Caterpillar
  • My Very First Mother Goose
  • Guess How Much I Love You
  • Where the Sidewalk Ends
  • The Giving Tree
  • Where the Wild Things Are
  • The Little Prince

The last two are kind of important because after I had gone on my book buying spree, I found these:

Where the Wild Things Are Mobile

The Little Prince Mobile

The Little Prince Mobile

And yes, these are your mobiles.  I have not actually bought them yet, but I will.  I don’t know whose is whose and it really doesn’t matter.  I love both of these stories.  They are perfect for boys and girls.

I realized after two days of online “shopping” for you that a lot of what we choose to buy and bring into your world has more to do with what we love than what you love.  In fact, it has everything to do with what we love.  That’s how things get passed down.  It’s why Where the Wild Things Are and The Little Prince will be timeless classics forever … because Mamas like me want to pass the love of them on to babies like you.

There will be plenty of time for pink princesses (if Harper happens to be a girl) and Star Wars action figures, super heroes, as well as USC Trojan (from your Daddy) and TCU Horned Frog (from your Grandpa Roy) paraphernalia — but for now, we’ll stick with the classics.

Hopefully you’ll come to love them as much as I do.




  1. Twins! Mine are 5 already! I wish you all The best

  2. Terrilox Terrilox says:

    Thank you so much! I appreciate it.

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